Master sustainable weight loss with expert tips on flexible dieting. Learn how the YOLO margin helps you lose fat and keep it off.
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What is the biggest mistake people make when trying to lose weight?
It’s a question that has plagued millions of us. You start a diet, you restrict everything you love, and for a few weeks, the scale moves down. But then, life happens. A birthday party, a stressful day at work, or just a Tuesday night where you crave a cookie. You cave, you binge, and you feel like a failure. The weight comes back, often with interest.
This cycle is not just your personal struggle; it is a global phenomenon. We know that nearly every diet can work in the short term. You can lose weight on keto, carnivore, vegan, or by eating only grapefruit. But we also know that nearly every diet fails when judged by the only metric that matters: sustainable weight loss.
According to Sarah Berry, a professor in nutrition at King’s College London and chief scientist at ZOE, the statistics are grim. “50% of weight is typically regained within two years, and 70% after five years.”
The problem isn’t losing the weight; the problem is keeping it off. The sustainable aspect is critical. If your plan doesn’t account for your humanity, your cravings, and your metabolism, it is doomed to fail.
In this comprehensive guide, we will dismantle the myths surrounding weight loss. Drawing on insights from Alan Aragon, a researcher and fitness coach with over three decades of experience, and Professor Sarah Berry, we will reveal the secret to breaking the yo-yo diet cycle forever. We will explore the science of sustainable weight loss, the power of “Flexible Dieting,” and the game-changing concept of the “YOLO Margin.”
If you are tired of starting over, this is the last weight loss article you will ever need to read.
The Modern Obesity Crisis: Why We Are All Gaining Weight
Before we can solve the problem, we must understand the environment we are fighting against. Why are we, as a society, becoming more overweight?
It is easy to blame lack of willpower, but Alan Aragon suggests it is a “perfect storm” of factors that have been building since the early 1980s.
1. The Sedentary Trap
The first major culprit is a gradual shift towards sedentary living. We have engineered movement out of our lives. “This has been facilitated by labor-saving devices and even electronic and digital means to not even have to get up off the couch to prepare food,” explains Aragon.
In the past, obtaining food required effort. Today, you can tap a screen, and a 2,000-calorie meal arrives at your door without you burning a single calorie to get it. We are moving less than any generation in human history.
2. The Food Environment and “Food Noise”
We are surrounded by a food landscape that our bodies are not designed to handle. Sarah Berry points out that our food choices today are vastly different from 20, 30, or 50 years ago. “They’re almost hijacking our system,” she says.
We evolved to handle occasional blood sugar spikes or periods of feast and famine. We did not evolve to handle a world where hyper-palatable, calorie-dense foods are available 24/7. This constant barrage of cues—advertisements, availability, and social pressure—creates “food noise” that makes sticking to a sustainable weight loss plan incredibly difficult.
3. Emotional Eating and Stress
Food has become more than just fuel; it is medication for modern life. Aragon notes a “greater tendency to use food to medicate or entertain themselves just from general work stress, interpersonal stress, and anxiety.”
When we are stressed, we don’t crave broccoli. We crave sugar, fat, and salt—foods that trigger our reward centers and provide temporary relief. This emotional connection to food is a significant barrier to sustainable weight loss.
4. The Knowledge Gap
Despite the abundance of information, there is a “fundamental misunderstanding of how to maintain a healthy body weight,” says Aragon. People simply don’t know—or forget—that fundamentally, you must impose a net caloric deficit over a period of time to lose weight.
Instead, we are led to believe in magic solutions. We look for “superfoods” that burn belly fat or villains that must be avoided at all costs. This confusion leads us straight into the arms of fad diets and misinformation.
The Biggest Mistake: Why Restriction Kills Sustainable Weight Loss
If you ask Alan Aragon what the single biggest mistake is that people make when trying to lose fat, his answer might surprise you. It’s not eating carbs. It’s not eating sugar.
It’s thinking that avoidance cures cravings.
“People think that if you avoid a given junk food, your cravings for it eventually disappear, which couldn’t be further from the truth,” Aragon states.
The Psychology of Rebellion
When you label a food as “bad” or “forbidden,” you give that food power over you. You create a psychological dichotomy: I am “good” when I abstain, and I am “bad” when I indulge.
This black-and-white thinking is catastrophic for sustainable weight loss. Why? Because humans are naturally rebellious. The moment you tell yourself you cannot have a cookie, that cookie becomes the most desirable object in the universe.
“When people regain their body weight, it’s usually consisting of these foods that they were avoiding,” Aragon explains. The restriction builds pressure until inevitable failure occurs. You eat one cookie, feel you’ve “ruined” your diet, and proceed to eat the entire box. This is the binge-restrict cycle that destroys progress.
Sustainability is the Only Metric
Sarah Berry emphasizes that while any diet can induce weight loss, the rebound is vicious. When you lose weight, your body fights back. Your hunger signals go into overdrive, your reward centers light up more for food, and your metabolic rate drops slightly.
If your diet relies on willpower and suffering to combat these biological responses, you will lose. “You can’t be good 100% of the time. That’s really pretty boring,” says Berry.
To achieve sustainable weight loss, the diet must accommodate our sense of rebellion. It must be flexible enough to allow for real life. If you want to lose weight and keep it off for the next 10, 20, or 30 years, you cannot be on a diet that forbids your favorite foods forever.
This brings us to the core solution: a strategy that embraces your cravings rather than fighting them.
The Truth About Fad Diets: Why They Work (And Why They Fail)
In the quest for sustainable weight loss, we are often tempted by the “new” and “revolutionary.” We see influencers pushing everything from the Carnivore Diet to the Alkaline Diet. But do they work? And if so, why?
The answer reveals a fundamental truth about losing weight that most people miss.
The Carnivore Diet: Throwing the Baby Out with the Bathwater
The Carnivore Diet—eating exclusively meat and animal products—has gained massive popularity. Alan Aragon, a self-confessed meat lover, warns against falling headlong into it just because you heard it was optimal.
“I just think that you throw the baby out with the bathwater when you just fall headlong into carnivore because you heard it’s optimal,” Aragon states.
Why it works short-term: Many people turn to carnivore to alleviate gastrointestinal distress. By eliminating all plants, you eliminate potential allergens or irritants. It acts as an extreme elimination diet. Why it fails long-term: It is socially and practically restrictive. Furthermore, the “ancestral” argument is flawed. “One can build a case to start off with a baseline of just meat and then reintroduce the plant foods systematically,” Aragon suggests. However, claiming vegetables are “bad” or “toxic” contradicts the weight of evidence on longevity and health. For sustainable weight loss, removing entire food groups usually leads to nutrient deficiencies and boredom.
The Keto Diet: A Double-Edged Sword
Ketogenic diets (very low carb, high fat) are another juggernaut. “The prescription itself is very simple, very no-brainer. Avoid carbs,” says Aragon.
Why it works: When you cut carbs, you aren’t just cutting carrots and apples. You are cutting doughnuts, pizza, cookies, and chips—the hyper-palatable “junk” that drives passive overconsumption.
- Calorie Reduction: You spontaneously eat fewer calories because you’ve removed 90% of the junk food options.
- Satiety: You often increase protein intake, which keeps you fuller.
The Sustainability Trap: “The level of restriction on carbohydrate happens to be something that is not sustainable for the majority of the general population,” Aragon notes. While a vociferous minority loves keto, most people eventually crave a piece of bread or fruit. When they cave, the weight returns.
Furthermore, food selection matters. You can do “dirty keto” (bacon, lard, butter) or “clean keto” (avocados, nuts, olive oil). As Sarah Berry points out, one facilitates health, the other potentially harms it. “It’s not about the carb. It’s that they’re all unhealthy foods,” she explains regarding the “bad” carbs we cut out.
The Nonsense Diets: Alkaline & Blood Type
Then there are the diets that are pure pseudoscience.
- The Alkaline Diet: Claims to change your body’s pH. “I mostly I don’t even know what they are… strictily speaking that then enter your stomach that we all know is acidic,” Berry laughs. Your body tightly regulates its pH; food doesn’t change it significantly.
- The Blood Type Diet: Eating based on your blood group. “No, they’re all nonsense in my opinion,” Berry states.
These diets often result in weight loss simply because they force you to pay attention to what you eat and often restrict processed foods. It’s not magic; it’s a deficit in disguise.
The Science of Metabolism: It’s All About Energy Balance
If fad diets are just tricks to get us to eat less, what is the actual mechanism of weight loss?
The Caloric Deficit Rule
“Fundamentally, in order to lose weight, you have to impose a net caloric deficit over a period of time,” Aragon asserts.
This isn’t just a theory; it’s physics. The Christopher Gardner Diet Fits Study proved this definitively. Gardner compared low-fat vs. low-carb diets. The result?
- Huge variability within groups (some lost weight, some didn’t).
- No significant difference in fat loss between low-fat and low-carb groups on average.
The Key takeaway: The study equated protein and calories between groups. When protein and calories are equal, the “magic” of low-carb or low-fat disappears. It comes down to energy balance.
Does a “Slow Metabolism” Make Weight Loss Impossible?
A common fear is that you have a “slow metabolism” that prevents weight loss regardless of what you do. Sarah Berry’s response is blunt: “I don’t really even understand what that term means.”
While metabolic rates do vary slightly between people, and metabolic adaptation (your body burning fewer calories as you lose weight) is real, it is rarely the insurmountable barrier people think it is.
The real barrier is sustainability. “We know that nearly every diet is not sustainable in terms of weight loss,” Berry reiterates. The challenge isn’t your metabolism; it’s finding a way to stay in a caloric deficit for months or years without losing your mind.
This brings us to the most important part of the puzzle: How do we create a deficit that doesn’t feel like punishment? How do we build a sustainable weight loss plan that allows for joy?
The Solution: Flexible Dieting and The YOLO Margin
We have established that strict restriction fails. We have established that fad diets are often just unsustainable calorie deficits. So, what is the alternative? How do you achieve sustainable weight loss without misery?
Alan Aragon’s solution is a strategy he piloted called Flexible Dieting.
What is Flexible Dieting?
Flexible dieting is not a specific menu. It is a philosophy. The core tenet is simple: The diet has to consist of mostly healthy foods that the individual actually loves.
If you enjoy the meals you eat, you will sustain the diet. If you hate your meals, you will quit. “That way you can much more easily sustain the diet,” Aragon says. This implies that personal preference is not just a luxury; it is a metabolic necessity for long-term success.
The “YOLO Margin”: The 10-20% Rule
The most revolutionary part of Aragon’s approach is what he calls the “YOLO Margin” (You Only Live Once Margin).
“It’s a fancy way of saying your fun foods or indulgence foods,” Aragon explains. “The diet has to be able to accommodate our sense of fun or even rebellion.”
The Formula:
- 80-90%: Wholesome, minimally processed, nutrient-dense foods (lean proteins, vegetables, fruits, whole grains).
- 10-20%: Whatever on earth you want (cookies, ice cream, chocolate, wine).
For a typical 2,000-calorie diet, this means 200 to 400 calories per day can be dedicated to “naughty” stuff. “You can’t be good 100% of the time,” agrees Sarah Berry. “That’s really pretty boring.”
The Psychology of “It’s Just a Cookie”
Why does eating junk food help you lose weight? It sounds counterintuitive. The magic lies in taking the power away from the food.
When you allow yourself to have a cookie every day, the cookie ceases to be a “forbidden fruit.” It becomes… just a cookie. “Take the power away from the food and put the power back in your hands,” Aragon advises.
If you believe you can never have ice cream again, you will eventually binge on a whole pint. If you know you can have a scoop tonight, and another scoop tomorrow, the urgency disappears. You can eat a small portion, enjoy it, and move on. This prevents the “What the Hell” effect, where a minor slip-up turns into a week-long binge.
Navigating the 80/20 Rule
Many people worry that allowing treats will open the floodgates. “How do you avoid what is a treat becoming then a routine and overwhelming the rest of your patterns?” Jonathan Wolf asks.
Aragon offers a two-part solution:
- Cognitive Priming: Remind yourself that you have permission. This reduces the “scarcity mindset” that drives binging.
- Healthy Alternatives: diverse your palate. You don’t always need the full-sugar, full-fat version. There are countless healthy recipes (like those in the ZOE cookbook) that mimic the taste of desserts without the caloric bomb.
But for the purists, the 10-20% margin is there for the real deal. If you love 99% chocolate, have it. If you love fresh fruit, have that. The goal is to build a sustainable weight loss plan that you can see yourself following in six months, one year, and ten years.
The Physiology of Fat Loss: Why Protein is King
Once you have the psychology (Flexible Dieting) down, you need to optimize the physiology. If calories determine weight loss, protein determines what you lose.
Do you want to lose fat, or do you simply want to be smaller? Most people want to lose body fat while keeping their muscle. This is where protein becomes the most critical nutrient in your arsenal.
Muscle is Money in the Bank
“Muscle tissue is essentially the major controllable metabolic engine of the body,” Aragon states. Muscle is not just for bodybuilders. It is your metabolic currency.
- Metabolic Rate: Muscle burns more calories at rest than fat.
- Nutrient Partitioning: Muscle “soaks up” calories and nutrients, preventing them from being stored as fat.
- Longevity: Maintaining muscle prevents sarcopenia (age-related muscle loss) and frailty.
“Muscle on the bones is like money in the bank,” Wolf summarizes.
How Much Protein Do You Need?
For the general population aiming for sustainable weight loss, the standard RDA is often too low. Aragon recommends a “sweet spot” for fat loss:
- Metric: 1.6 grams to 2.2 grams per kilogram of body weight.
- Imperial: 0.7 grams to 1 gram per pound of body weight.
If you weigh 150 lbs, that means aiming for roughly 100 to 150 grams of protein per day.
The Hunger Weapon
Protein isn’t just for muscles; it is a potent appetite suppressant. “Of all the macronutrients, protein appears to be the one with the most potent effect on hunger control,” Aragon notes.
Research shows that “stacking” lean protein on top of a diet often doesn’t lead to fat gain because it makes you so full that you spontaneously eat less of other things. It smooths out blood sugar spikes (as Sarah Berry notes), preventing the crashes that lead to cravings.
Practical Protein Tips
- Protein Powder: “Protein powder makes hitting protein targets very easy,” says Aragon, who keeps things practical. Two scoops can provide 40-50g of protein instantly.
- Food First: While powders are convenient, aim for whole sources like lean meats, fish, eggs, dairy, or plant-based alternatives for the majority of your intake to get the added vitamins and minerals.
- Distribution: Don’t stress perfectly timing your protein. The total amount at the end of the day is what matters most.
Rule 4: Move Your Body (The Right Way)
Diet controls your weight; exercise controls your looking good naked. Okay, that’s a simplification, but the principle holds. While you can lose weight without exercise, sustainable weight loss is vastly harder without it.
Resistance Training: The Non-Negotiable
When people think of burning fat, they think of cardio. They think of running on a treadmill for hours. Alan Aragon stops them right there. “It has to contain a resistance training element in order for it to be optimal,” he insists.
Why not cardio? Cardio burns calories while you do it, but resistance training builds the engine (muscle) that burns calories all day long. “As we get older, we just lose our functional capability muscularly because we just sit around and barely move,” Aragon warns.
You don’t need to be a bodybuilder. Resistance training simply means “any resisted joint movement.” This could be:
- Weights in a gym.
- Calisthenics (Push-ups, air squats).
- Resistance bands at your desk.
The “Big Three” Movements: If you are overwhelmed, just focus on these three patterns:
- Push: Push-ups, overhead press.
- Pull: Pull-ups, rows.
- Squat: Air squats, lunges.
The “Exercise Snack” Hack
Sarah Berry admits she hates the gym. Her solution? “Exercise Snacks.” “I have by my desk one of those exercise bands… Every time I boil a kettle, I do squats. I can get 20 squats in. I have about eight cups of tea a day. That’s 80 squats without even thinking about it.”
This approach breaks the barrier to entry. You don’t need “time” to exercise; you just need to integrate movement into your waiting periods.
Rule 5: Sleep is the Foundation
Surprise! The first step to losing weight isn’t diet or exercise. It’s sleep. “Sleep is the X-factor for a lot of the success or failure in programs,” Aragon reveals.
The Sleep-Deprivation Tax
What happens when you sleep less than 6 hours?
- Increased Hunger: Your appetite hormones go haywire.
- Cravings: You specifically crave “calorie-dense, hyper-palatable foods.”
- The Penalty: Research shows sleep-deprived subjects consume 200 to 300 extra calories per day.
“Bi-directional badness,” Aragon calls it. Poor sleep leads to bad food choices, and bad food choices can disrupt sleep. In one study, simply coaching people to sleep 2 hours more reduced their intake by nearly 270 calories—without even mentioning a diet.
The Strategy: Before you cut a single calorie, fix your sleep hygiene. Aim for 7-9 hours. It is the easiest weight loss hack in existence.
The Elephant in the Room: Ozempic and GLP-1 Agonists
We cannot talk about weight loss today without mentioning GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic and Wegovy. Are they the magic bullet?
“I almost want to see them fail, but the evidence is in favor of them,” Aragon admits honestly. They are incredibly effective at shutting off “food noise“
The “Life Jacket” Analogy Aragon views these drugs as a life jacket. If you are drowning (morbidly obese, health in critical danger), a life jacket saves your life. But you shouldn’t need a life jacket just to swim in the shallow end. “I think that they have the potential to be abused by folks who want to, you know, lose the last 10 pounds,” he warns.
The Danger: If you take these drugs without fixing your diet (especially protein), you will lose muscle mass rapidly. “You’ve got to make every calorie count,” Berry urges. If you lose weight but destroy your metabolism by losing muscle, you are setting yourself up for a catastrophic rebound if you ever come off the drug.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I lose weight without counting calories?
es, but calories still count. Strategies like Flexible Dieting or Time-Restricted Eating help you control calories naturally. However, awareness is key.
Is the keto diet better for fat loss?
No. Studies show that when protein and calories are equated, low-carb and low-fat diets result in the same fat loss. Choose the one you can stick to.
How fast should I lose weight?
Aim for 0.5 to 1 pound per week. Losing faster often means you are losing muscle, which hurts your metabolism long-term.
Do I need to cut out sugar?
No. Unrefined sugars in fruit are great. Even refined sugars can fit into your YOLO Margin (10-20% of calories) without harming weight loss, provided your overall diet is healthy.
Conclusion: Your 5-Step Plan for Sustainable Weight Loss
We have covered physiology, psychology, and practical tactics. Here is your roadmap to transforming your body—not for 6 weeks, but for life.
- Step 1: Fix Your Sleep. Do not start dieting until you are sleeping 7+ hours. This immediately saves you ~300 calories of cravings per day.
- Step 2: Embrace Flexible Dieting. Adopt the 80/20 rule. Give yourself a 10-20% YOLO Margin for your favorite treats. Stop fighting your rebellion.
- Step 3: Prioritize Protein. Aim for 1.6g per kg of body weight (or ~0.7-1g per lb). Use protein powder if you need to. This protects your muscle and kills hunger.
- Step 4: Resistance Train. Do push-ups, squats, or use bands. Do “exercise snacks” if you hate the gym. Build the muscle that burns the fat.
- Step 5: Be Patient and Skeptical. Limit weight loss to 0.5% – 1% of body weight per week. Ignore the “miracle cures” on social media. “Don’t just take it on faith… be skeptical,” Aragon advises.
Sustainable weight loss is not exciting. It’s not a magic pill. It is the consistent application of small, enjoyable habits. As Jonathan Wolf concludes, “If you can find the things that you enjoy, then you’re much more likely to stick with that.”
Stop dieting. Start living. And enjoy that cookie.
